Aren’t we supposed to love our kids unconditionally, aren’t we supposed to relish in every single moment and never want to be away from them? How could we ever fathom being apart?? When they were younger other moms would ask me about my thoughts on daycare. I would explain that I love my children, but I’m open to other people loving my children too.
“Mothers have martyred themselves in their children’s names since the beginning of time. We have lived as if she who disappears the most, loves the most. We have been conditioned to prove our love by slowly ceasing to exist."
And then comes magical January 1st. The shiny date of eternal optimism. The promise of a new year and all the potential that it holds. We can do anything on January 1st! We can accomplish all our goals! Anything we set our minds to! We are SUPER PEOPLE! January 1st makes things easy - we can eat all the kale, do all the push-ups, and dream-board all the vacations.
We’ve all been there. The last-minute gift struggle. No judgment - trust me. Sometimes the days just get away from us, and before we know it we are days away from the family holiday party, or something of the like. So I’m here to save you from a gift-less entry.
There are very few holiday traditions that are as polarizing as the "Elf on the Shelf". Whether or not you participate in having an elf in your home may actually be more controversial than apple pie vs. pecan pie.
The idea of a Pinterest mom is simple, really. You spend your free time making Halloween costumes, organizing your home with countless woven baskets, baking healthy meals from scratch and making school lunches filled with cucumbers shaped like flowers and sandwiches shaped like zoo animals.
There are also girls with whom she does not get along. Not for any other reason that these girls lack social graces and verbal filters. It takes everything in me to not get involved when she tells me that girls in her class have said rude things to her. She lets these comments roll off her back, and sometimes has a witty retort for the other girl. I know what it is like to be on the receiving end of these things and I want to protect her with all my heart.
Only recently have I realized how much I took our fertility for granted. There were issues, yes, but for the most part, we wanted to have children and we did. The idea that there were people for which this was not the case was not openly discussed.
These questions are magnified by not really knowing what our children are doing during the day. What ARE they learning? What concepts are being covered? When the typical response to "what did you learn today" is either "I don't know" or "stuff", how can you even be effective?
So, if you are sitting and reading this, thinking that your marriage isn't perfect, congratulations - you're human. If you are sitting there thinking that other people have perfect relationships and you are the odd one out, I'm here to tell you that no one's is.